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Woman defriends her rapist on Facebook

  • Man who raped woman 38 years ago popped up on her Facebook page
  • Dorri Olds told Dr. Drew: 'When I defriended him, I felt strong'

Dorri Olds was a lonely, vulnerable 13-year-old girl when she was gang raped by a group of teenage boys.

Thirty-eight years later, one of the boys who raped her appeared on her Facebook page under the “People You May Know” section.

Olds bravely wrote about her experience in an incredibly moving piece for The New York Times and talked to HLN's Dr. Drew about her experience.

“In your essay, you say you almost talked to one of your teachers, but eventually, clamped up, held it in, remained disregulated and wounded and then turned to drugs and alcohol as so many do,” Dr. Drew said to Olds on Monday night's show.

She responded, “That`s about right. Yes. I had this one English teacher… and I wanted to talk to her, but what stopped me from telling her, from telling my parents, my sisters, I knew that something would be done, and those boys would get in trouble.”

Dr. Drew talked to her about how it is common to hear victims utilize self-blame. Later, he pointed out a line in her essay that reads:

"I wanted to hate him and hurt him, but realized that the only way to be free was to let it all go. When I defriended him, I felt strong. The past was the past, and my mouth wasn`t covered any more."

Hear Olds express the relief she felt by writing those words and why she initially "friended" him in the video clip above.

Dr. Drew airs weeknights at 9 p.m. ET/6 p.m. PT on HLN. Be sure to follow the show  on Twitter @DrDrewHLN and Facebook.

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