Dr. Drew on Kardashian divorce: ‘I don’t blame them; I blame us’
By Dr. Drew Pinsky
After just 72 days of marriage, Kim Kardashian filed for divorce from her "Prince Charming" husband, basketball player Kris Humphries.
More than eight million people tuned in to watch their “fairytale wedding." They made millions off the marriage.
But how could things fall apart just a few months after this big, lavish, and expensive wedding?
Well, I don't blame them. I blame us. Why did we buy into this charade? Was this all a plot to make money? Did we all fall for it?
I’ve looked at a lot of footage of Kris Humphries – and what I see is a young, naive man who got himself into a situation that was, perhaps, over his head. I believe he was actually very into this, more than anybody realizes, and it is probably is hurting him, even if he had been misbehaving. There were allegations of cheating.
We’ve even seen a report in the New York Post alleging that E! producers for Kim’s show contacted the New York Knicks about a player, asking him if he wanted to date Kim. Was this a casting call? That to me is disgusting. I think Humphries believed in marriage – not the fairy tale we had to see on TV. I don't think he was happy with the cameras or any of this.
Girls buy into this dream as opposed to the reality of what intimacy and a family is supposed to mean. I challenge people to look at all of the homes and marriages that have allowed cameras in for reality shows – very few of those marriages survived.
Kim released a statement on Monday that reads:
After careful consideration, I have decided to end my marriage. I hope everyone understands this was not an easy decision. I hoped this marriage was forever, but sometimes things don't work out at planned. We remain friends and wish the best to each other.
The marriage lasted only 72 days! Is that really careful consideration? Why the rush to divorce? Why not a separation or something else ... but to get a divorce attorney right away? It’s almost like they planned it. This whole thing is making a sham of an institution that's already been under attack for many, many years.
I’m angry. I value marriage greatly. I love my own family and marriage, but there are also individuals in many states fighting just for the privilege of marriage. I really think this is disheartening and maybe infuriating to gay people that are fighting desperately for this right, and here, somebody is profiteering. It’s making a sham out of something that should be taken more seriously.
The institution of marriage has been under assault We have people buying into this as being some idealized experience, yet, we’ve lost the real essence of what a marriage is.
There are too many beautiful, fantastic and expensive weddings - and crappy marriages. I'm here to tell you, marriages can work.
Unfortunately, we seem to worship celebrities and image, but we have to remember that many of these people are playing roles in their professional lives and some of them may be doing that in their private lives too. They are selling what they want us to believe and some of us are buying it. Why does this matter? Because it is shaping our culture. Kids aspire to be like them and they are now chasing fantasies that are unhealthy and empty when the real meaning of a relationship is something that is being missed. Keep that in mind as you’re bringing up your children.
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