Editor's Note: "Generation Overshare" is a series about the blurred lines between what we share online and what we keep private. All week, HLN brings you content that examines the impact of putting it all out there, especially for a younger generation that's growing up on social media.
Facebook -- and all of social media for that matter -- is all about connecting and reconnecting with friends. Or at least we like to think that it is.
I mean, if you really wanted to reconnect with someone (and not just surf their wedding photos or see which recent romantic comedies they liked) then you would pick up the phone. You would get in the car and drive.
What Facebook -- and again, all of social media for that matter -- is really all about is connecting and reconnecting with friends, from a comfortable distance.
*scrolls News Feed* "Wow, sounds like my old seventh-grade science teacher is really into yoga. Well that's enough of that." *scrolls News Feed*
But photographer Tanja Hollander has a much more social approach to social media.
The Maine resident has been traveling the country to visit each one of her more than 600 Facebook friends. She hatched the plan on New Year's Eve 2010 with what she estimates was "about $50 in my bank account."
So far, so good. Hollander has followed through across "43 states, 97 cities, 11 countries and 4 continents" on a social media adventure funded largely by sales of her portraits and, as she puts it, "just hustling."
Whether "trying to find friends with Frequent Flyer Miles or gas cards" or old fashioned bartering, say, swapping a meal for a picture, she's traversed her personal social graph.
At each stop, Hollander spends a day or more reconnecting (the real kind) with friends and acquaintances who span a lifetime and takes a portrait of her host as part of her "Are You Really My Friend?" photography project. "I think the thing that's surprised me the most is how incredibly kind and generous every single person has been," she tells HLN.
"They have all welcomed me into their homes -- from friends, to strangers, they even have dinner waiting for me. That's unreal," she says with a laugh. "It still surprises me. I was not expecting that at all!"
Her unofficial status as America's First House Guest, at a time when so many of us casually invite people into our lives digitally, but are still hardly any more likely to invite them into our homes, has allowed Hollander to transcend the superficial bond that's forged with a click of the "Add Friend" button.
"That was sort of the foundation" for this social experiment, she reveals. "I was thinking about what a real friend is: Somebody that you have over for dinner, that you drank too much red wine with, that you can argue about art or politics or whatever and still be friends in the morning. So it was really important to me that I go to people and their homes. There's something about the intimacy of home and the intimacy of the portrait."
"I found [my friends] much more interesting in real life," she adds. For all the talk about how people present false online personas, a so-called "digital dualism," Hollander says that at each stop her Facebook-borne expectations have met reality.
"People want to make these blanket statements about social media relationships, but I just don’t think you can. As far as people pretending to be what they're not, I haven’t seen that at all," she reports from the new media frontlines -- which on this day was doubling as the blueberry bushes outside of her home.
"There are things people [I've visited] aren’t sharing online, thankfully -- like miscarriages or bad breakups -- that I didn’t know about." But that's how friendships have always worked, online and offline. "You don’t just whip out your wallet and show co-workers pictures of you partying the night before. We didn’t start curating just because Facebook existed," she explains. "We’ve been curating forever."