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Dear Abby lays the smack down on anti-gay reader

  • Reader: 'What do I do about my gay neighbors?'
  • Dear Abby: 'Don't blow a chance for growth'
Dear Abby lays the smack down on anti-gay reader

If Abigail Van Buren of "Dear Abby" fame is known for anything, it's her constant, objective voice of reason, which is probably why a frustrated Florida couple turned to her for advice about their gay neighbors.

In a letter published on Van Buren's Yahoo column, the Florida residents explain that by leaving the gay neighbors out of their gatherings, they have been labeled as "bigots" by other neighbors.

"While I understand the phrase 'when in Rome,' I don't feel we should have to compromise our values just to win the approval of our neighbors. But really, who is the true bigot here?," wrote "Unhappy in Tampa."

Read more: Ellen Page reveals she's gay: 'I am tired of hiding'

Abby's response was, as always, concise and to the point.

"I find it interesting that you are unwilling to reciprocate the hospitality of people who welcomed you and opened their homes to you, and yet you complain because you are receiving similar treatment," she said.

She advised the couple to use their problem as a vehicle for growth.

Pauline Phillips was the woman known as Abigail Van Buren, who created "Dear Abby." She passed away in January of 2013, but her daughter Jeanne Phillips had been co-writing by her side since 2001, and took over in 2002 when her mother developed Alzheimer's disease.

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