Actress Maria Bello has come out as gay in a very public way: By revealing it in a first-person piece for The New York Times.
In an op-ed titled "Coming Out as a Modern Family," Bello details how she told her 12-year-old son that she has been in a long-term relationship with her female best friend.
When her son Jackson asked if she was involved romantically with anyone, the "Prisoners" actress admits she hesitated to tell him the truth. "He was right," wrote Bello. "I was with someone romantically and I hadn't told him," explaining that her therapist advised her to only tell her son if he asked. "I had become involved with a woman who was my best friend, and, as it happens, a person who is like a godmother to my son."
Bello continued, writing that her son's "wise beyond his years" response was: “'Mom, love is love, whatever you are.'" She also reveals hesitation about publicly coming out, not sure how it would affect her career, but that falling in love with her best friend seemed the most natural thing in the world to her.
Bello describes the woman, Clare, as "one of the most beautiful, charming, brilliant and funny people I had ever met, but it didn't occur to me, until that soul-searching moment in my garden, that we could perhaps choose to love each other romantically."
She writes, "What had I been waiting for all of these years? She is the person I like being with the most, the one with whom I am most myself."
Bello concludes: "Whomever I love, however I love them, whether they sleep in my bed or not, or whether I do homework with them or share a child with them, 'love is love.'"