Editor's note: Christi Paul is an HLN and InSession anchor and author of “Love Isn’t Supposed to Hurt,” a personal story of dealing with emotional abuse. She is on Facebook and Twitter. She is holding a book signing on Wednesday, June 27 at 12 p.m. ET in the CNN Bookstore in Atlanta.
I’m so grateful to be able to do a job I love and one that gives me purpose.
Besides my work on HLN and In Session, partnering with The National Center for Missing and Exploited Children in D.C. to profile missing children (our segments are linked to the recovery of 25 kids so far! Thank you for helping us!), my latest project came with a lot of hand wringing, tears and, ultimately, strength I didn’t know I had.
Writing “Love Isn’t Supposed to Hurt” was one of the most difficult things I’ve ever done. I lived through emotional abuse once -- I hardly wanted to do it again in print. But as a mom with three little girls, I’m not fool enough to think abuse of some kind might never happen to them at some point in their lives. I wanted them, and you, to know you can find an authentic life on the other side of it.
What I’ve learned is that we’re all in this together. The challenges we go through can help us become more of who we want to be and then help other people struggling with the same numbing pain. While we can’t control other people in our lives, we can control how we allow them to shape us and how we see ourselves. The story and healing I share in this book, along with resources and exercises for you, are meant to help you let go of what haunts you and live the life you’re meant to live.
Strong. Brave. Confident. Real. You can be all these things. You’re equipped with what you need already. Sometimes life, or people, have just beaten us down so much we don’t think we have what it takes in us. But I know you do. Because I was living in fear myself for a long time. It doesn’t have to be that way.
“Do what you feel in your heart to be right -- for you’ll be criticized anyway”. Eleanor Roosevelt
That’s the motto I’ve adopted the last 12 years. Doing the right thing isn’t always the easy thing, but it doesn’t mean you shouldn’t try. Here’s to “Habituating Hope, Celebrating your Spirit and Living your true Life!"
With love and hugs,