_ Editors Note : Sarah Ivens is the former Editor-In-Chief of OK! Magazine, who published the exclusive photos of Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher's wedding in 2005. Ivens is now an author and columnist for The Daily Mail._
When OK! Weekly won the bidding war to publish exclusive photos of Demi and Ashton's romantic, private Kabbalah ceremony in Beverly Hills, the team and I not only celebrated the great cover story and the increased magazine sales that would follow, but that -- for once -- a hot film star was not chasing a young cocktail waitress around Teddy's Nightclub at 3 a.m. Instead, he'd seen the value in an older woman. Sixteen years older. That is quite a chunk of change in normal years, but in Hollywood terms he was practically marrying his Granny ( a very beautiful Granny). We rejoiced.
Demi and Ashton's courtship came at a time when the "cougar" was discussed, celebrated and berated in the media on a daily basis. Successful, wealthy, independent women all over the world were realizing younger men could not only be more fun, grateful, and respectful than older men who may have a chip on their shoulder, but were probably better in bed too. The old statistical chestnut about a woman hitting her sexual peak in her 40s and a man hitting his in his early 20s was bandied around cocktail bars in Manhattan and honky tonk taverns in Nashville, and many women decided to test the theory for themselves. A man who wasn't threatened by your success and had a virility you had previously only dreamed of? Wow. "Where do we get one?"
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The Kutchers' relationship not only added a celebrity sparkle to this previously unconventional type of partnership, but the fact Ashton wanted to commit to her -- and her three daughters, and seemingly her ex-husband Bruce, too -- showed that these May-December relationships didn't have to be short-term flings based on sex. They could be serious too. Some women had known this for decades, of course, but there's nothing like an A-list endorsement to make the world wake up and shake off stereotypes.
And now, six years later, cougars across the globe are mourning. Rumored infidelities with numerous ladies -- younger than him and much younger than Demi --has earned Ashton our wrath. He's let Demi down. He's let us down.
Meanwhile Demi is really showing her age: She's been classy, strong and elegant throughout this whole public debacle.